Last night I attended a training on public speaking as part of The Health and Wealth Annex. Now, I have been speaking in public for about twenty years to audiences ranging from as small as ten people to as many as a thousand. So, I am very comfortable on stage. I enrolled in this training to insure that the way I speak is consistent with this new organization.
During the session, the leader went through the first three steps of the process of public speaking. After confirming our understanding and providing an example, he asked for volunteers to “try it out.” I didn’t volunteer. And that is the reason for this blog.
Why didn’t I volunteer? As I stated earlier, public speaking is nothing new to me. I’m not afraid of getting in front of a group. So, why not just do it? After analyzing this to death, which I tend to do, i realized that I was afraid of not being right. I was afraid I would get up there and not do exactly as he had instructed. This is exactly the same roadblock most adults come upon when learning something new.
Part of being adult is we have life experiences. These experiences allow us to assess, judge, organize and assimilate or refuse new information. The downside to this process is that it can limit our understanding and, therefore, new experiences. We are so busy trying to judge whether we believe or not, whether it is right or wrong, whether or not it fits with what we know, we don’t see the possibilities.
Furthermore, as we learn these new ways our fear of change and mastery of something new blocks our attempts at change. The ironic part of this is that we cannot master without first attempting. You cannot learn to ride a bike without getting on the bike. So, I have made a declaration to myself to get on the bike. I will proceed without fear of being wrong, without fear of failure. The only true failure is to never try.
So, if you are having to learn something new because of a recent job loss, if you find yourself in a new career, don’t get in your own way. Relieve yourself of the burden of being right and go for it.
To laugh is to risk appearing a fool,
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental
To reach out to another is to risk involvement,
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self
To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss
To love is to risk not being loved in return,
To hope is to risk despair,
To try is to risk to failure.
But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow,
But he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live.
Chained by his servitude he is a slave who has forfeited all freedom.
Only a person who risks is free.
-Anon., [seen variously attributed with slight variations to William Arthur Ward, RalphWaldo Emerson, Leo Buscaglia, and anonymous]
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